Wear Cute S.O.C.K.S.

So much of my work with new trainees is giving them the space and encouragement to feel comfortable in the gym/studio space. It’s just a fact that some of us queer folk (and a good percentage of our hetero cousins) have never felt a sense of connection in a gym environment that may have made is feel a spectrum of feels, from unfamiliar to uncomfortable, to downright hostile and dangerous.

So when someone asks me how to start feeling that elusive feeling of “belonging” in a gym …. I just say…

“Wear Cute SOCKS”

And then they give me this weird stare like I’M the one that’s crazy.

And then I stare them right back in the eye and I say:

S is for Self

O is for Open

C is for Consistent

K is for Kind

S is for Slay

And they’re like…”why are you staring at me like that?”

And I’m like…”oh sorry, bad habit”

And then I share the following advice: